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ColColt
06-15-2007, 07:22 PM
As many of you already know, Katie was a Corgi Mix of possible American Eskimo/Pembroke Heritage.Three years ago I didn't even know what a Corgi was. She came into my life back in the summer of 2004 when she was just four months old. My former wife and I have always remained good friends and she brought Katie over for me to see. It was love at first sight for me and I like to think for her as well. What a little bundle of energy she was not being able to stay still for more than ten seconds as just as happy as she was energetic.

We played a lot on the deck and in the yard, although she was on a thirty foot leash because I didn't have the back fenced in but she ran and explored the yard just the same. I didn't take any pictures of her as I knew she was so young and that I had plenty of time. I did get videos of her with a Hi8 camcorder but, no still pictures.

Katie loved to play about as much or more than any dog I had ever seen-jumping and running and even hiding when you weren't' watching and then she would jump out as you walked by (like you didn't see her) as to try and scare you. She was just like a three year old in many respects. I think I can count the times I heard her bark on one hand. She was such a loving little thing and loved everybody regardless of age or what you looked like. There were no apparent issues with Katie the whole time I knew her. No food, dog or human aggression was present nor was she afraid of anything that I remember. She was as close to being the perfect dog as I have seen and I don't think you could have ordered a more loving dog if that were possible.

Margie (my former wife) offered Katie to me about a year later if I wanted to keep her as she was having enough on her hands with a sick son. I declined because I just didn't frankly think I could take care of her as it had been years since I had a dog live with me and I didn't have a fenced in yard, crate, baby gates or anything doggy related. Although we sort of shared Katie, Margie was willing to let me have her and and come visit from time to time. I still suffer emotional anguish over my decision.

Last November 2006, I called Margie to see how Katie was doing and her usual reply was, " Just as feisty as ever", and I expected to hear that this time...I didn't. I was told that while tied to a small tree out fron where they lived, she was left alone about thirty minutes on her 30 foot leash so Margie could do some house work. When she came back outside, Katie was missing but the leash was still there-stretched out it's full length. She was called over and over but she wasn't to be found. Soon she was discovered lying on her side just over a grassy knoll about thirty feet from the leash with her right eye laying on her check and the left eye bulged out. Panic set in and Margie rushed her to the vet. They didn't know what had happed as there were no wounds on her, no blood or any evidence of attack in any way.

The vet placed her eye back in the socket and sewed the eyelid over it not giving it much hope. He did offer some hope of possible some sight coming back to the other eye but she was currently blind. Margie didn't keep Katie indoors except when it got cold but from that point on she had to as Katie couldn't see where she was going. We still were trying to surmise what had happened to destroy her vision like that but we became clueless.

Two weeks later they were to remove the stitches from her eye to see what, if any progress had been made with her eye. Two nights before she had a bad seizure and was thrashing around for several minutes. The vet was called and he said she would probably be ok if it only lasted a few minutes and he would check her when she came in to have the stitches removed.

I was out of town in NC with my sister as it was the day before Thanksgiving and I knew if was time for her to go and get the stitches removed. I had so hoped that some of her vision would return and she would at least have one eye to see. She had such lovely dark eyes. I called Margie about the time I figured they were back home and asked how the trip to the vet went and how her eye was doing. Her only response was, "David, Katie's gone". What!!! I said...what do you mean she's gone!! When they had taken her to the vet, she had another bad seizure on the table. Once she calmed down, they removed the stitches and her little eye just fell out. The vet said that at her age (2 1/2) her quality of life was over and with the seizures and all the other things she had going on in her head, it would only be an act of kindness if they euthanized her and that was the decision made that day when I was 260 miles away and didn't even get the chance to tell her goodbye.

You could have knocked me over with a feather and I felt like all the blood within me just left. I had every possible emotion flooding through me all at one time, anger, distress, hatred, anxiety, worry, denial...things just didn't make sense. She had only went to the vet to have the stitches removed and now I was being told she was gone! I couldn' believe what I had heard. I was angry at the vet, Margie, and somehow a little at Katie for not being better and being healed. It was not a good Thanksgiving at my sisters. I cried bitterly, I couldn't eat, sleep and I couldn' think straight. It was one of the worse times I've ever had in my life accepting death.

Margie brought Katie home in a blanket and had her grandson bury her out at the side of their house. I went to see her and we stood by her grave holding each other and crying like we'd lost our first child, which we never had. In a way, our daughter did indeed die as she was like a daughter to us both. This isn't easy writing this as memories are flooding my mind again. I had a head marker made for Katie that was engraved in granite, "Katie, our Sweet little Girl. We love You and Miss You". She was the most precious dog I've ever known and I love her and always will.

This is long and I apologize in advance but, I wanted to tell this as I will soon be getting a little red headed tri Corgi from a wonderful woman who rocks him at night and I feel privileged to even believe I will again have a little furball in my life. I still suffer some guilt over the fact that if I had taken Katie when she was offered, she may very well still be alive today. Perhaps I shouldn't feel like that but I do. Moreover, perhaps God has given me another chance to take Bubba and let him be what Katie can no longer be-a loyal, loving companion. Perhaps my suffering over her has reached the portals of Heaven and made this thing happen for me. For whatever the reason, I will take care of Bubba, love him, protect him, attempt to give him whatever is needed to make his short stay here on earth as good as I can with the knowledge I have. Maybe the wounds from experiencing the death of my precious Katie will wane more as time goes on and Bubba and I become each others only recourse of happiness and joy. May I always remember this incident with Katie and never let another opportunity to love an animal pass my way again unanswered. Bubba is a sweet boy and I can't wait to meet him and bring him home with me.

So, If you should see my avatar change over the course of the next month, it is because Bubba will now be a live memorial to me of what I passed up and have been given another chance to care for yet another one of God's creatures. Had it not been for Katie, I wouldn't have known about Corgis. Nor would I have found this breed specific forum and get to know and care about all of you wonderful and precious people who share the same love that I do for these crazy, but lovable little Pembroke and Cardigan Welsh Corgis.

Crazy Cardis
06-15-2007, 07:50 PM
David, that was such a beautiful memorial to Katie. I'm sure she appreciates it and is watching over you. Bubba will have a very deserving home and I'm sure you will give him all the love in the world...Katie would be proud.

Dillydoodle
06-15-2007, 07:59 PM
David- I wish i had the right words to say to comfort you, i do understand the pain of the loss... having lost my soulmate kitty almost two and a half years ago. Getting Dillon 6 months after Clinton passed really did help me heal...and while no one could ever replace my clinton, i was able to open my heart to love another .

I know how much Katie means to you, and as a true believer in the rainbow bridge I know she is there playing until the day you are reunited. I am sure she had a paw in helping you find Bubba - and I know you will be a wonderful dad to him.

off to get some kleenex, dry some of these tears ... sending you big hugs

Emilie

MVons
06-15-2007, 09:30 PM
Wow David. My jaw was open reading about Katie's eye and it sounds like it could have happened on a leash at your yard. We learn so much from our past dogs no matter how short a time, which better prepares us for our next. The suddenness of Katie's death makes the loss harder to bear. Glad you were able to have some closure of her life with her burial.

No apology needed for a long post. If you want to make an additional post of more things about her, please do. It is such an honor to read about these wonderful dogs who were so special.

Merrie

Penutsma
06-15-2007, 09:46 PM
Wow David. My jaw was open reading about Katie's eye and it sounds like it could have happened on a leash at your yard. We learn so much from our past dogs no matter how short a time, which better prepares us for our next. The suddenness of Katie's death makes the loss harder to bear. Glad you were able to have some closure of her life with her burial.

No apology needed for a long post. If you want to make an additional post of more things about her, please do. It is such an honor to read about these wonderful dogs who were so special.

Merrie

I agree with everything she said. What a wonderful tribute to Katie. I had often wondered about her but just didn't feel right asking. Missing a beloved pet/child is a very private thing until you are ready to share. Thank you for sharing her story and picture with us. Bubba is a very lucky boy. *wipes tears*sniffs*
Patti

ZdogZ
06-15-2007, 09:51 PM
David ~ That is a wonderful tribute to Katie. She sounds like she was such sweet little girl. I do not want you to feel guilty about not taking her home with you. Something like that could have happened at your house, too. My honest opinion is that when it is our time, or our pets' time, it is our time. It doesn't matter where you are. I bet Katie will look down at you and Bubba and will be proud that her daddy has a big enough heart to love another! Like Emilie, I need to go get the kleenex. Lots of love and hugs to you from us Z's.

MissGambler's+Mojo'sMommy
06-16-2007, 06:11 AM
David: Years ago, I woke up one day to find a stray cat sleeping in a chair on my patio. This cat stayed there the entire day, and the next day, and the next day. It reached the point that I became scared that I had a very sick cat on my hands, he didn't seem to be moving, but I did catch him getting down and going over to my flower bed and discreetly and neatly going to the bathroom, before getting back in this chair. I had two cats indoors at that time, and again, I thought that this cat was sick. But it was going to be cold on the third night, very cold, and I am not the type of person that can watch an animal suffer. I didn't hesitate to bring him in, I was lucky and had an enclosed screen porch. He loved the bed I fixed for him, and the food and water I gave him. The next day, I plastered the area with signs. The very next day I was removing all of those signs. I had decided to keep him. I took him to the vet and had everything done to that cat, even a flea bath, and expected to pick up a very grouchy male cat, but he was happy to see me, and became my special cat, he loved me, and showed that loved constantly. A few years later, when he went blind, I was devastated, but he went out of his way following the wall and furniture to find the litterbox, me, and the bed every night. It was as if he was begging for the chance to stay, and I heard him, loud and clear. We really communicated. He had a stroke a couple of years later and had to be put asleep. It was the hardest thing that I have ever had to do and I am crying buckets right now as I write this. The last thing that I told him before he went to sleep was that when it was time, I wanted him to come back to me, he licked me and went to sleep. When I married, my husband wanted a cat of his own, at that time, my cat hated him, so we went to a shelter in CA, HUGE, and as he was walking down the row of cats, all ignoring him, one reached out a paw to get his attention, and my heart lurched, this was the spitting image, mustache and everything, of my deceased cat. We didn't hesitate, and took him home(even went back and adopted his friend!!!) and he proved everyday that he was my cat. They do come back to us. (Now everyone is going to believe that I am crazy, but it's how I feel.) You will always have your furbaby, David, always.

Jespah
06-16-2007, 08:57 AM
David,

Thank you for sharing your story of Katie with us. I know that it must have been very hard for you to write, but, you did it beautifully. I think it was perfect timing to give Katie her place here to prepare to allow Bubba into your life. I think Katie would be very happy to know that because of her, another wonderful dog is going to get a life with someone who will love him and care for him. You did everything you could at the time for Katie and have nothing to feel guilty about. You will be a great "Dad" to Bubba and we will all do everything we can to help and support you with him.

Deb

LaRositaMonita
06-16-2007, 09:06 AM
Thank you for that wonderful story, David...I know we all feel your heartbreak at losing Katie and are glad you shared it. Here's to remembering the past dog who stole your heart, and looking forward to the future one who will steal your heart very soon :)

ColColt
06-16-2007, 09:12 AM
Thanks for all the sweet comments everyone. I had hashed and rehashed that day wondering what could have possibly have happened to cause her to pop her leash and become blind and eventually her demise. I can only surmise that knowing how active she was that perhaps she saw a varmint-maybe a groundhog or even a stray dog as they lived out in the country, and went tearing off to play with it. She got to the end of the leash and with such force, jerked her back so hard that it nearly choked her and created such pressure it caused her eyes to pop...that's all I could think of since she wasn't attacked.I'll never know for sure and that's what ate away at me for months.

One thing I forgot to mention. When Margie first told me about what had happened and how she had to pick Katie up and take her outside since she couldn't see anymore, she told me I wouldn't want to see her like she was(she knew how tender my heart was about her). I sometimes wish I had gone to see her anyway but, I didn't. I knew it would kill me if I had. As we talked, I asked her to put the phone up to Katie's ear so I could talk with her. I told her how much I loved her and wanted her to get better. Margie said when she heard my voice, she started turning around and around with her bushy tail wagging wildly. I at least got to tell her I love her before she left us.

There are many unexplained and strange things that happen in this life. Who knows, perhaps Katie did have something to do with my meeting Bubba. I can't say it's impossible and wild because I don't really know. This I do know, had it not been for her, I don't think I would have known just how much a human can love an animal. After a few weeks when she was gone, I was still having a great deal of problems accepting it all. I'd talk to an imaginary Katie and cry several hours a day. My sister told me I needed to get a better handle on things-"You didn't get this upset when Mom died", she told me. Of course, she didn't know how I felt after I left NC and came back to TN after the funeral. In ways, however, she was right. Mom had 86 years and I knew her time was short. Katie, on the other hand, was not much more than a puppy at 2 1/2 years old and loved life so much and I couldn't help her in her hour of need. I thought I had all the time in the world to take pictures of her and visit her and always asked Margie when was she going to swing by here again and not to forget to bring Katie.

With the advent of time moving on, here it is seven months later the 23rd of this month since she's been gone, the pain has subsided somewhat and I thought I had been doing good until I started this thread. It's been difficult writing this but, I did want to leave a tribute to such a wonderful and loving little girl who desired nothing in life but to be loved and cared for.

Bubba is in need of a home and as I mentioned before, I have a home to share with him and I know the kind of love and attention I afforded Katie will spill over to him. I think the preparation and goodies I've gotten for him so far will speak for that. His crate arrived yesterday and I enjoyed putting it together. It has bumper pads and a cover for it and I feel sure he'll enjoy his soft new home when the time comes.

Thanks for all the warm, loving, heartfelt feelings as you all know where I'm coming from. That was a marvelous story, MGM and like you, I believe in some ways, they do indeed come back to us.

Squeaker
06-17-2007, 02:41 PM
David, I don't often visit here anymore, but I was very moved by your tribute to Katie.
Part of healing the pain of loss is in expressing our love and you have done this most beautifully.

ColColt
06-17-2007, 02:57 PM
Thank you, Squeaker. She's still on my desktop here at home and at work so, each time I turn on the computer, she's the first thing I see. I know she would be happy to romp and play with Bubba as she was a fun loving little thing. She never got over 22 pounds but she was like a speeding bullet when it came to playing. I do miss her sorely but, I know Bubba will fill that void for me and I can only hope I'll be able to do all for him that I didn't get the chance to with Katie.

disraeli ears
06-17-2007, 04:21 PM
David - {{{{hugs}}}} What a sad, touching story. Poor little Katie - she sounds like she was a wonderful little creature.

I'm glad that you are letting a new furball into your life - you really deserve one and I'm sure Katie would agree. +WUBCLUB+

ColColt
06-17-2007, 05:30 PM
We sometimes have to move on, Tana, and share our hearts and lives with those that are still here that need us and that we need as well. We've all lost human loved ones and know the devastating experiences that brings, but; we still love those that are with us and perhaps, love them even more as we see the fragility of life and see just how each day with them is even more precious than before.

I believe Katie would approve immensely of the upcoming relationship she may see that I'll be having with Bubba and is smiling with glee at the wonderful times of laughter, joy and tears that await...it's all just part of life and she sure enjoyed it while she was here.

jcj528
06-18-2007, 12:31 PM
David:

You're right! Katie will enjoy your new relationship with Bubba. The greatest compliment to a great dog is another great dog to follow him or her. As dog are blessed with lives much shorter than ours, most of us have had dogs that have left us to go on to what ever is beyond. It is our task is, as broken hearted as we are, to go on and to keep them alive in our hearts. In someways, this can best be done when there is another canine companion showing us the way back to wholeness. It is often through the guidance of the next dog that we learn to seek beyond the screen of the pain of separation and remember the joy. Over the next few months, things will happen and Bubba will do things that remind you of Katie. The neat thing is now that with Bubba it will be with a smile on your face instead of a lump in your throat. And that is what will make Katie happiest of all.

ColColt
06-18-2007, 04:06 PM
Those were sweet words Julie...thanks for that kindness. Katie taught me what it feels like to love an animal and I never realized that until she was gone. I knew I enjoyed being around her and I did love her but never realized just how much. But, my heart is big enough to let another in and occupy that dead space, that hollow cavity that has been there for so long and I can see that nothing will fill that void like loving another will do. I'm ready to let my heart be stolen once again.

ColColt
06-30-2007, 10:46 AM
I decided to do a memorial on Dogster for Katie-short but a lasting testament to her love, devotion and playful temperament...forever missed, never forgotten and always loved.

http://www.dogster.com/dogs/574511

The Chipmunk's Mom
06-30-2007, 08:17 PM
David

That is beautiful.

ColColt
06-30-2007, 08:32 PM
:CUTE: Thanks, Bonnie.

MrsGrace
06-30-2007, 09:51 PM
That was beautiful... what a wonderful tribute to your best girl. +WUBCLUB+

Dillydoodle
07-01-2007, 04:53 AM
What a beautiful tribute... thanks for sharing it with us...

Emilie

bayoucorgi
07-03-2007, 11:00 AM
Okay, I'm boo-hooing at work. I know how you feel to have had a very special dog. And just like the lyrics of Mr. BoJangles, after all the years I still grieve. I never thought I'd love another dog like I loved that one. I never loved his kids or grandkids the way I loved him. But then came the little red and white Liam. He is SO different because he is a corgi and the other was a Golden. But they play the same and have the same love for me and unbreakable devotion and joy of life.

I hope the same things for you and Bubba.